Healthy relationships can be created and maintained only when our nervous system feels safe in bonding with other human beings, and in giving and receiving love.

Attachment styles are often talked about in pop psychology over the last decade, but they’re rarely talked about from a nervous system perspective.

But connection is a somatic experience. So is chasing it or pushing it away.

If you wish to transform your relationships and love life, join my new workshop and:

 

  • Receive trauma-informed neuro-education on the connection between your nervous system states and your attachment style(s)
  • Understand why and how self-regulation and co-regulation challenges are at the root of your relationship challenges
  • Be guided through somatic practices you can return to anytime for rewiring your nervous system for fulfilling relationships
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Your attachment style isn’t an intellectual experience.

It’s a somatic and primal experience.

Whether secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful avoidant, it’s ingrained in your nervous system, and it shows how your body has learnt to relate to love and connection.

This is why healthy love and relationships might feel like a challenge. 

Because your nervous system has learnt to associate closeness and love with danger.

To be able to experience closeness and love, your body will need to feel safe to experience them.

But safety is a FELT experience in the body and we can get there by working with our nervous system.

This is why I’m offering this workshop for the first time – because any knowledge of attachment styles is incomplete without understanding how our nervous system is shaping our love, life, and relationships.

More specifically you'll learn:

  • The difference between self-regulation and co-regulation, and how they both shape our attachment styles

  • Why your nervous system isn’t – yet – available for the love and connection you crave (there's a valid reason)

  • How our nervous system responses are linked to our attachment styles and codependency

  • The somatics of anxious attachment: what you need to know as an AA or a partner of a AA

  • The somatics of dismissive avoidant attachment: what you need to know as a DA or a partner of a DA

  • The somatics of fearful avoidant attachment: what you need to know as a FA or a partner of a FA

  • Why push-pull dynamics in anxious-avoidant relationships make total sense from a nervous system perspective

  • How to stop saying ‘yes’ to relationships that repeat your childhood wounds

  • What it means to be a safe partner, and how to be and attract one

  • How your nervous system can help you navigate conflict and repair constructively

  • 5 Steps to helping your body become available for the love and relationships you long for

  • Three somatic practices to help your body renegotiate its relationship with love and closeness

  • Q & A

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What My Clients Say...

"Effie's course has been life changing for me. I decided to join because of her philosophy, her story and because I felt that she'd 'get' me. She broke down complex information so it was understandable, gave me tools to support myself with my cPTSD, anxiety and depression, and she offered persistent and reliable guidance. There has been such a transformation for me and I'm in a totally difference place compared to where I was before."

Corina Ebnother

"Effie showed me how to re-connect with my body, to feel my feelings, and how to listen to them. She challenged me to see the past and myself without the shame, and soon it became clear to me that there wasn’t anything wrong with me’. She helped me get to the core of my problem, gave me tools to transcend it, and techniques to help me feel and release emotions I used to shut down out of fear. She truly helped me feel ‘whole’ again."

Dave Cooke

"Working somatically with Effie helped me be more familiar with the sensations in my body and be comfortable to sit with my feelings. I've struggled with urgency and I'm now able to notice when my body is in the fight or flight, and to ground myself. Effie also helped me realize how my core wounds are playing out in my life, and I'm better able to notice when I'm acting out of a wound. My skin has also cleared over the months after working on my trauma, which was unexpected but now makes sense since I was always in fight or flight and never gave my body a chance to relax. Working with Effie was so beneficial and in the end I noticed huge improvements in my mental health."

Allie Westrup

This workshop is for you if you experience any of the following:

  • Challenges in romantic and other relationships that impact the quality of your life

  • A series of relationships that ended even though you genuinely desire healthy romantic love

  • Your attachment style is anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant, and/or you’re in a relationship with a partner with any of these styles

  • Fear of abandonment that doesn’t let you enjoy and relax in relationships

  • Fear of losing your freedom and independence that doesn’t allow others to get close to you

  • Communication problems in your relationships, such as lack of assertiveness, people-pleasing or not knowing how to repair after conflict

  • Difficulty in setting and maintaining boundaries, or in respecting other people's boundaries

  • Experiencing codependent tendencies that cause you to lose yourself when in a relationship

  • Having a desire for closeness, love and healthy intimacy

  • Having a desire to be in a relationship and still maintain your personal power and autonomy

  • Having a desire to become a more confident communicator

What's Included

Trauma-informed Nervous System Education

Learn how to use somatics and work with your nervous system to help your body become available for healthy love and fulfilling relationships

Somatic Practices for Emotional Processing

Be guided through somatic exercises that can help your nervous system rewire for connection and fulfilling relationships

Q&A

 

Learn in community, have your questions answered live by me and hear my answers to questions of other participants

What My Clients Say...

"Your guidance has helped me immensely. I feel my emotional, mental and physical situation has improved a lot, and it happened in the best moment in my life. In certain ways my whole mindset shifted and I learnt a new approach. It works! I will use the methods you taught us. Thank you for being a devoted, genuine, motivating, sensitive and warm-hearted human being."

Szilvia Frank

"I feel that the biggest part of not feeling worthy and feeling inadequate has been healed through working with Effie."

Lili Suke

"Effie’s ability to get to the truth of the matter and create a path to a different way of seeing myself has been life changing."

Susannah Barrie

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What previous workshop participants say...

"Overwhelming in a very good way!"

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"A very deep and informative workshop."

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"This is so eye-opening. I am amazed at the doors that are opening for me from now on. THANK YOU!."

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"Thank you SO much for this offering! Your passion for this shows through and it has been very insightful!"

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"This is a wealth of information and helpful practices. Thank you for this gift!"

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Your Questions Answered

About your Teacher

 

Effie Kli is a trauma-trained somatic coach and educator with over 1,200 hours of somatic, nervous system and trauma training, combined with client work privately and in groups. Her holistic approach is informed by science-backed psychology and neuroscience, by the understanding that body and mind are one system, and by what she sees her clients benefit from as she supports them with the processing of trauma and repressed emotions stored in their bodies. 

For two decades she lived with cPTSD and anxiety, and one thing she's seen proven inside her practice and through her own personal change is that our body always guides us towards healing. 

In her work and teachings, Effie is not interested in pathologising symptoms and pain because she knows that symptoms and pain are our body's way of talking to us. Instead of shaming those experiences, a paradigm shift of healing is to learn to apply compassionate curiosity and learn to speak our body's language so that trauma gets resolved sustainably.